I never thought it would be so hard

This is the culmination of over sixteen years of experiences from my life trying to forge a future for my children in the world, attempting to shelter them from inappropriate adults, protecting them from the chaos that is the system and trying to impart unto them the lessons I have learned from this experience and from before. 

When I started out on this fatherhood road, I was naive to think that the women in my life would allow me to father my children. Our world has taken the concepts of the centuries prior and decided to rid ourselves of them. Concepts such as discipline and mentoring are fading into the background. When we can only pass on our heritage through lessons passed down, we are only one generation from destruction. 

My fear is that this event is shortly coming and my words and deeds today may be the only voice crying out in the wilderness. Today 78% of all black children are born out of wedlock. 45% of all white children are born into the same situation. Marriage is the foundation of a nation, and while this is not a homosexual marriage rights hit, but marriage is a unique institution for a unique situation. Immorality aside, a man and a woman are needed to bring the children up correctly. Yes there is love in homosexual relationships, and I am not discounting this, it is however the belief of this one man that a child needs a strong male and a strong female to grow up straight. 

It is the love of God that a child learns from the mother and the Law of God or discipline of God from the father. Now, discipline is not hitting the child. The word used here is to disciple the child, in other words, to lead the child by example. I have no idea where the confusion came from that in order to disciple you have to hit. Spanking, or the one solid smack on the buttocks to get the attention and to snap a child out of destructive behavior has been seriously changed to be the relentless outward lashing of an out of control adult.

 As we will explore, it is far more important to be a good example to mold a child than it is to be out of control. Fear does not do anything except invoke the fight or flight behavior God made that emotion for. If we are of sound mind and control our behavior and our mouths when we are stressed from a child’s incessant rants and raves, then the child will learn that when they are stressed to mirror that same behavior. Also, the challenges of a single dad are somewhat similar to a single mom, but with some unique differences in how both society and the government sees them. Changes are being placed and while I will make the stances on certain issues, this is not written for political views but rather as an enlightenment. 

In closing, while the challenges have been unexpected, the experiences are priceless. Not everything that comes to you is a blessing and not everything taken away is a curse. Being a dad is more a lesson in deflection and meeting of events. Taking the time to love and to recognize the tremendous honor and privilege bestowed to you by God, to care for and protect His children.