Practice what I call, "Adult Information Blackout.” This is a concept that basically keeps all adult interactions that are not for little ears, away from the kids. Today I see several children that are friends of my kids knowing way too much. This is told to them under the guise of they have a “right to know.”
No they don’t.
They are kids and they have no rights to information. They have a right to live without abuse of any kind, they have a right to play and do kid things but they do not have a right to know. Select information that is pertinent to your kid. If you know that there is something that your child needs to prepare for, give them the information at the right time when they are best able to handle it. Never, Never, Never just let it fly in front of the kids.
They already believe that they are at fault for mom and dad breaking up or not being together. Do not burden them with information they do not need. The focus should be on you being the adult and taking the brunt of all issues on and then setting a daddy’s taking care of it attitude and loving the kids with all your heart. By doing this, the children will get a feeling that they are safe under your wing and that security will bring other behaviors in line.
Most kids act out because of insecurity and a wanting you near and paying attention. So be near and pay attention and your kids will need less reprimanding.
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