Dislocation - Not all women are nuturing...

 Nothing is more painful to find out then to see you child in pain.  It is even worse when you find out later that it was their mother that caused the injury and further when that mom does not even apologize nor seek help.  This is what I found out after one of the times my oldest twos mom admitted herself to the mental hospital.

 

My son, who was just two years old at the time, had just put on a sweatshirt and getting ready to go out. His mom was in the tub and like all little boy toddlers, he thought thrusting his hands into the tub full of water would be fun.  I know that at my age I love to splash around.

 

His mom was in the tub and in her usual resourcefulness, lost her patience with this young child.  After the event I pieced together the events and developed the timeline as this.  My son came into the bathroom, saw his mother in the tub and decided to thrust his arm into the water up to his shoulder.  This caused the long sleeve sweatshirt to become soaked in the process.  His mother realized the situation and began yelling at the young boy.  At the same time she began wringing the sweatshirt of water while the young boys are was still in the sweatshirt.  This caused extreme trauma to the shoulder of the young boy causing the upper arm to pop out of the shoulder joint. 

 

The event took less than 30 seconds, and as young kids have rather flexible joints, the should popped back in.  However for over a year, every so often the shoulder would pop out, causing the child to be in severe pain until it popped back in and then sore for a week or so after.

 

The problem I had is when I brought this to light with the Child Services people, nothing happened.  It was criminal what happened to my son and the woman that did this was not even reprimanded.  In fact, more abuse happened, more notifications and still no action by the people who were suppose to protect.

 

Years later, as I was able to listen to what happened behind the closed doors, many other abuses were found out.  Stories of family beds where the mother would have men stay over and allowed the kids to sleep in the same bed.  So much damage was done to my oldest daughter and son as they saw, at a very young age, their mom having sex with multiple men. 

 

Now as they both have problems building and retaining relationships, the pain so great that they both call their mom by her first name.  The mom stalks her seven kids on Facebook using different alias' and still nothing is done.  All seven broken beyond imagination and she is still free to do what she wants and to continue her misguided ways.